My Teen Won't Do Homework. How Can I Fix This?
Say this in a supportive way with a smile on your face. Again, it’s important not to get sucked into fights with your child. Remember, you don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. If your child refuses to do his or her work, then calmly give the consequence that you established for not doing homework.
Meet Jake, a 15-year-old ninth grader, who rarely, if ever, does his homework. Jake’s teachers report that he is inconsistent. He enjoys learning about topics that interest him but seems unfocused during class and fails to complete necessary schoolwork, both in class and at home.
But when parents feel it’s their responsibility to get their kids to achieve, they now need something from their children—they need them to do their homework and be a success. I believe this need puts you in a powerless position as a parent because your child doesn’t have to give you what you want.
Child Not Doing Homework? Read This Before You Try Anything Else. by Tanith Carey. (This article is part of the Be Positive series. Get free article updates here.) With less than an hour to go before my seven-year-old daughter’s bedtime, my home was a long way from being the oasis of calm I was hoping for at that time of evening. Instead Lily had just scribbled all over her homework.
Q: “Though we have a homework plan and agreed-upon schedule, when the time comes to get started my child has an epic meltdown — yelling, slamming doors, refusing to do the work.I’m exhausted by these daily battles and my child’s grades are suffering. I know homework is tougher for students with attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) and some accommodations may be appropriate, but how.
I would like to offer some advice about one of the most frequent problems presented to me in over 30 years of clinical practice: battles over homework. I have half-jokingly told many parents that.
Hm, I'm going to have to reevaluate my teen. I know it comes up to state he's completed his homework, but he's still doing poorly enough to get calls from the principle. I may have to have him quit his job. The only other thing I can try to do is get the lazy youth out the door to school ON TIME. I swear, he dawdles. I send him to school and I.
Dear ADDitude Dear ADDitude: My Teen Won’t Do His Homework! “My 13-year-old rushes through his homework and often forgets to hand it in. He also has ODD, so he is so stubborn and doesn’t want to study or accept help.
You're the adult, and it is your responsibility to guide them through the difficult times. Do not expect to enjoy your time with them all of the time, and remember to look after yourself. How do I cope with the stress? Parenting a teenager can be exhausting, so it's important to look after yourself, too.
My teen won’t do their homework! Every adult you know was once a teenager. This fact may reassure you that teenage years are survivable, both for your teenager and for you. A teenage brain is not an adult brain. Take that one fact to heart—by dealing with your teenager differently than you would deal with a peer—and many of your parent.
This includes all the steps your teen needs to take to get ready to do his homework and what he needs to study that day. Having everything listed out can make it easier for him to get started and prioritize his time. It may also make his homework load seem less overwhelming. Keep a worry pad.
Question: My son is in 10th grade, and making sure he does his homework has always been a big struggle. I feel like I’m constantly nagging him. Would it be better for me to stop supervising his homework and let him deal with the consequences at school?
If you've gotten yet another call from your child's school reporting that he's forgotten his homework, you're probably out of patience. Whether your child is forgetful or just doesn't want to do his homework, he needs to get it done anyway. A few creative punishments might be just the motivation he needs to get himself in gear and do his.
